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Chokkklit Shop - A fling or a long-term relationship?

There's something about spring and summer that makes everyone think that they should be coupled. Maybe it's the advertiser's images of vacation getaways, showing happy couples dancing, kissing and romping on the beach. Is it Mother Nature; those warm summer nights that let us know winter is over and we can come out of hibernation. You can't listen to the radio late nights without running into a Love Zone, Quite Storm, Midnight Whispers, Smooth Grooves or by any other name an ode to romance and couples. So, if you didn't have anyone to keep you warm before, then now's the time to find him or her. Whatever the reason, it just seems to be the thing to do, our nature.

If you hook-up with a guy on your vacation to the Bahamas, or Jamaica you can definitely rule that a summer fling. But if you met a guy at the company picnic or a friend's wedding reception and you hit it off, how do you know that there is long term potential? The best way to approach this is like any other relationship, let it build slowly. There is no way to microwave a relationship or else it will be ready, done, and over in microwave minute. Just because everything around you is pushing for a spring romance, doesn't mean you have to fast track the relationship before summer ends. Seasons will come and go, but if you want him around for while, take your time, enjoy the outdoor activities that spring and summer offers and move slowly toward the hot summer night, steamy sex scenes that you long for. If you dive right in, you have removed a very crucial step in building a relationship. You've forgotten to be friends first, before becoming his buss-it-baby.

Ladies, flirt a little, show off what you got (only if you got it) and let him think that his line swept you off your feet. You can flatter and compliment, but be sincere and honest with your new found playmate to see where it leads. Learn all about him/her and use that knowledge to your advantage. Share some once in a summertime experiences, that will make your time together more memorable and see what happens when the seasons change. They will soon realize that you are more than just hot fun in the summertime, and that you go well with the various aspects and seasons of their life.