Chokkklit Shop - 08

This has been the topic of discussion between women and men for hundreds of years; which has no definitive answer. Women and men are split and basically have two views on the topic: one view is, to be a good girl and make him wait and the other view, is being able to fulfill their needs like men. A large percentage of men says, "if a woman gives up the cookie too soon, she has no chance to be the apple of his eye".

In general younger men is that, they refuse to wait for sex. Younger men admit to moving on to someone who will put out vs. someone who is saving it for later! What is odd and intriguing to me is the practice of not respecting a woman who decides to have sex right away, in other words they say these women are not "wifey" material. It's rather confusing, if they are not into waiting for sex from a woman; whom are they planning to marry? At some point, they will end up waiting for the "good girl".

Is it fair to consider young women who decide to have one-night stands or engage in booty calls as loose women? Our society likes to throw around words such as ho's and tramps to describe women who indulge in casual sex. The bottom line is, it is not fair to judge a woman simply because you do not know her reasoning for her sexual history. The fact is many young ladies today confuse sex with love. Then there are some women who just like having sex. If they see a man they are interested in, and feelings are mutual, why not engage? As long as you protect yourself. I truly believe this double standard still exist only because WE (women) still believe it!

I found there was a minority of men who believe that a woman who sleeps with a guy early in a relationship has demonstrated that she's not relationships material - good for a good time, but not a good wife or mother. Yet many women believe that a large majority of men feel this way. I blame "sex experts" that prey on the insecurity of some women by encouraging the worst kind of game-playing - these experts tend to write books packed full of "rules." They keep us clapping for this old and moldy double standard, one, which would die the death, it so richly deserves if we just stopped clapping so hard for it.

Yes, some men do believe that only men should be able to sleep around, have one-night stands, and have sex on the first date. My statement to them would be, "what's good for the goose is good for the gander!" You shouldn't have expectations of me that you can't even meet!

I'm not saying that women should sleep with men on their first dates - I'm not offering up a sleazier set of rules. Although, I know lots of happily married couples that did sleep together on the first date. People should do what feels right and appropriate for them. Sometimes that will mean waiting, sometimes it won't. Whenever you meet a guy that thinks one set of standards applies to him and another set applies to you, the only right and appropriate thing to do is to run for the hills! Get as far away from him as possible!