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In the last few years, there has been an increase in teen pregnancy and analysts don’t know why. Every day more and more teenage girls of all races are giving birth to children. You would think with free and easy access to contraception and the abundance of information regarding AIDS statistics and other sexually transmitted diseases that teens having unprotected sex would be on the decline. But unfortunately the reality is quite contrary.
Reality is: Two-thirds of these teen moms will not graduate from high school, will receive some form of welfare assistance, and have sons who are at a greater risk of being caught up in the penal system.
BASED ON MY BOOK: WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW, YOU DON’T
Excerpt from book, page 10
“Is it possible that because society has become more sympathetic with single moms, that females have become relaxed and irresponsible? Maybe teenagers are getting real life sex mixed up with sex seen on T.V.”
Or maybe, just maybe, teen pregnancy has become parent approved! Has it become such a common sight to see a teen with a pregnant belly, that it is now socially acceptable? Do parents take in stride the fact that they are grandparents after being a parent for only 13 or 14 years? Why are our babies rushing to have babies?
Just think for a minute……….. If trying to convince a grown woman to postpone sex for 90 days goes into one ear and out the other, how are we going to convince a teenager to restrain from having sex? The thought of a woman over 25 keeping her legs closed for 3 months is like asking black folk to give up barbeque ribs for tofu. Now, let us try getting a teenager to ignore all the sexual images they’re bombarded with daily; that would be like mission impossible. Believe it or not, that busy box in your living room you have entertaining/babysitting your kids, has a huge influence on our teens.
Excerpt from book, page 25
“Reasons why you may want to have sex:
If you don’t have sex with him, the other girl will. Let her!”
You have women who are way past legal age, and still don’t realize that within a relationship their man should treat them with respect or get to steppin. So how will we convince a teenager?
Excerpt from book, page 36
“Look out for guys that aren’t house broken. Sometimes a guy will do things that are disrespectful. Rather than perceive what he did as being disrespectful, you’ll charge it to him growing up on the other side of the fence and not knowing any better. Well, if he doesn’t know any better and you do, then the two of you aren’t equally meshed, are you? Sometimes we take things too lightly. Sometimes it’s not that he wasn’t taught any better, it’s about him not giving a damn about you to show you respect.”
Sisters Stop Asking Sisters, Im A Black Man Just Ask Me
Let’s be realistic! How much does a brotha have to be able to afford to maintain a relationship with you? Now, it’s always easy for a brotha who has it going on financially to dictate what another brotha should have the funds for. But the truth is, the well-to-do brotha make up a very small fraction of society and depending on your geographic location, that portion can be minuscule. So just how “fat” should the average brotha’s wallet be? What’s the compromise?
Excerpt from book – page 12:
“Many black women are single due to economics. You have a large portion of sistahs that place a monetary value on everything. A man’s worth is determined by the amount of money he makes, how much he’s spending, and what kind of car he’s driving. This sistah has no conversation for the brother trying, even if he isn’t looking to dog her out. Little does she know, this sistah has already eliminated ninety percent of her options.”
Mr. BMW
Is economics to blame for so many single sistah’s?
What are our options:
If you eliminate the brotha’s that are currently incarcerated, that’s about 750,000. Do away with the black men that you know are gay, and women should remove married men from their dating pool also. Women, in addition eradicate a huge amount of potentials if they refuse to date outside of their race or culture, keeping in mind the fact that brotha’s frequently date outside of their race. Therefore, black women have to compete with Asian, Hispanic and white women too. Now, look at what you’re left to choose from.
Therefore you have to ask yourself; are finances still going to be a major factor regarding looking for love and having a lasting relationship?
Some Black women are caught in the MATRIX. We read too many books and watch a great deal television shows and movies that are geared towards white women and how love and relationships work for them.
Now from "What You Think You Know, You Don’t" book!
I dedicate this book to teen girls and their parents, or better yet, to the parent(s) of teen girls.
Dear Parent(s)
Have we thrown in the towel on our teen girls and accepted teen pregnancy as a part of our culture? If not, have you covered all bases informing your daughter about what a bad relationship is and the reality of being a teen mom?
This book is a must! Last year there were approximately 700,000 teen pregnancies. Maybe parents are in denial about their daughters having sex, forget what young love is like and the trials that young girls go through, involved in unhealthy behavior yourself and you're passing this behavior on to your daughter. Not to insult you as a parent. But sometimes we need to get back to the basics in order to gain control of our relationships.
Many times……… what you think you know, you don’t.
Please do not send your young daughter out into the dating world uninformed, Lil Junior’s got game. Please, provide your daughter with some kind of defense, come back line, rebuttal, a strong hell-to-the-no!
After years of talking/listening to women advise other women about their “dead end relationships” I was really becoming irked.
Either:
- She’ll create a scenario on a guy she doesn’t know.
- She’ll dig real deep for some positive feedback (so she doesn’t hurt her feelings)
- She’ll tell the honest truth and risk being accused of being a “hater” or being jealous.
- She’s in a jacked-up relationship herself, so she’ll fill her friend’s head with the same distorted explanations she’s convinced herself of.
This is what led me to write “SISTERS STOP ASKING SISTERS, I’M A BLACK MAN JUST ASK ME”. I just had to probe black men for the inside scoop on what we women ponder over. Women, don’t try this at home! A man will hold back information when he’s out to gain or has something to lose. Buy the book!
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